Don’t worry, people. Realize that if you know where you wanna go in life, you’re the privileged ones. Don’t look to that friend who seems like they’ve got everything figured out and compare yourself to them, only to come out thinking you’re not ambitious enough, not hardworking enough, not good enough. Look around you instead, at all those lost souls who haven’t figured it out yet and feel better about yourself. Not because you are better, but because you’re not alone. You are not the only one struggling with your plans and you can draw a lot of comfort from knowing that it’s common and normal and okay. Look at the people ahead of you with motivational purpose in mind. Use their success for inspiration, not for feeling like a failure compared to them. It is not a competition. The job market might be, but life isn’t.
There are a lot of sixteen-year-olds around that draw better than you, take better pictures than you, write better, sing better, even adult better than you. Sometimes you feel inferior, because you still struggle talking on the phone with people and strictly ignore every unknown number. You still struggle drawing noses and you can’t seem to figure out how to put your thoughts into words while others post the most beautiful status updates on Facebook about something as mundane as what happened in the cafeteria today. You read things that are so beautifully worded you want to cry, or print it out and hang it on your wall, and immediately you wonder: Why am I not able to do that? We all feel like that sometimes
But it’s not a competition. It’s not.
Make sure you try to find what you want to do in life and if you change your mind, that’s fine, too. It isn’t practical and it’s isn’t fast, but it’s okay. We all change our minds sometimes, and our future goals and life plans aren’t an exception to that. Finding yourself is a process and it takes time. But someday you will find the thing you want to do, at least for the time being. And when you change your mind again, you will have one more thing to add to the list of experiences you have made.